Coping With Infertility
If you have always wanted children, the news that you are infertile can be a huge blow to your life. Coping with infertility is a different journey for each person, but know that the label of being infertile is a bit deceiving.
There are very few people with this label that actually cannot ever have children. This often means that you are challenged in your quest, but it does not mean your miracle will not happen.
No matter what your real situation may be, learning to cope will help you deal with something that can be about as heartbreaking as losing someone close to you.
Coping with infertility for a woman is tough. She may feel that she has failed at the one thing that she should be able to do and that others seem to do so easily. Seeing pregnant teenagers and families that always seem to have surprise pregnancies can be super tough.
One of the first and hardest things that you must do if you this is you is to understand that their success is not your failure. You did not do anything wrong. It is unfair that you want a baby so badly when so many have them and neglect and even abuse them, but you cannot let this become personal to you.
Men also can have a hard time coping with infertility. It could be that they are the issue or it could be that their wife cannot have a baby or that nothing is working.
Women often worry a man that wants kids will leave her for someone who does not have fertility issues. This effects the man though he may not even realize this is her worry.
Men also feel that having a low sperm or motility count means that they are less of a man than they should be. Dispelling these myths in a man's mind is a huge step in coping.
What any couple should remember when they cannot conceive right away is that infertility may just mean a delay in parenthood. There are many couples that give up on having their own only to find that they are blessed later on in life.
Some try for fifteen years before they have a child. If you are constantly worried about it and doing all you can to get pregnant, you are putting yourself under stress that can delay conception for someone who already has fertility issues.
Take up yoga or deep breathing, keep yourself busy and pretend as best you can that you are not desperate to have a baby. It may help. Also, talks with a doctor about coping with infertility can help you as well.
Coping with infertility means accepting that you may have challenges. Instead of giving up, see what you can do to up your chances. Also find means to come to grips with your issues and get treatment for any conditions that may hamper your ability to have children.
Let friends and family help you and comfort you when you feel bad and remember that many couples who are told they will never have children defy the odds.
You may be one of those couples too. Get books to help and find support online. The future is not written and stone so remember to keep the faith.